Thoughts on Friendship
So, I know that I haven’t actually written a post that wasn’t a vlog or a poem in a long time, but today I wanted to do just that to talk about some thoughts on friendship that we can all use. I actually did want to do this in a vlog, but that is not possible right now because I don’t have much uninterrupted privacy where I can straight record. Therefore, I am going to write down my thoughts and try to portray them as much as possible for you.
This past week I realized that I’ve had walls up for a few years now. It isn’t something that I did consciously or on purpose. Rather, it is something that I did because of circumstances that happened that hurt me more than I realized. No one person is really at fault, but it is hard not to blame anyone. I have struggled with that but, even more, I have struggled with letting myself become friends with people that I didn’t know before everything happened. I’ve pushed them away. Don’t get me wrong, my personal relationships with family and friends that I already had are better than ever. However, this is because I focused so much on those relationships because I was scared to form new ones. I was actually afraid of getting hurt.
Now, I know that a lot of this is cliché.
We’ve all heard it before, right? However, I promise that I do have a point. Here it is: If we, as Christians, don’t let ourselves form new friendships, how are we supposed to spread the word like God told us to? Also, do we put ourselves on such high pedestals and get so scared of getting hurt, that these essentially become our gods, as opposed to the one true God that we supposedly follow?
Before you try to argue, just think, do you spend so much time preparing yourself so that you look “perfect” that you don’t have time to read your Bible? Or maybe you spend so much time on your phone or doing something else so that you don’t have to talk to anyone else. If this is the case, then maybe you or not getting hurt has become your god.
I’m not saying that you need to change who you are.
If you are shy, great, be shy. Just remember that you can step out of your comfort zone a little at a time. You don’t need to all of a sudden speak to every person that you see. Maybe just try befriending one new person at a time. Once you think you are comfortable with that friendship, then try another one.
Or maybe you are on the other side of the spectrum. Maybe you are more like me, and, instead of being shy, you are just quiet because you are scared of getting hurt again. The same goes for you. Try one person at a time. Instead of trying to rush anything and risk overwhelming yourself, just do a little at a time. No matter who you are, you can help yourself and others at the same time. Find something that works for you and, most importantly, run with it. Don’t run away. Trust God and let him lead you to say and do what he wants you to. He can make things happen more than you might think. Even just praying can help.
Especially as Christians, we need to be bold in our friendships.
It is important to take risks. Yes, you will get hurt. Please, don’t think that I’m saying that you won’t. However, the risk is worth so much more than not doing anything at all. These friendships that you will form could last a lifetime, and they will be what helps hold you together when other friendships fall apart. They will keep you on the ground and help you remember who you are and who God wants you to be. They are too valuable to just pass up. Trust me, I learned the hard way. Please, learn from my mistakes and trust these thoughts on friendship. Be bold and take risks, knowing that it is worth while.